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Secret Bride - The engagement

Secret Bride - The engagement

So he did it! He got down on one knee and proposed! Eeek! I still can't quite believe it. I have a fiancé! A man who wants to spend the rest of his life with me, make a home with me, have a family with me and grow old with me. I find myself smiling all the time, even when I'm sat in very serious and I might add boring meetings at work, I will catch the corners of my mouth rising at the very thought of marrying my Mr Right. Not only is he ridiculously wonderful, all my friends and family love him and he makes the best cooked breakfast known to man, he is my best friend and that above all else is what made me reply 'Yes I'll marry you'.

As soon as the words came out of my mouth my head started whirling and everything felt very surreal. I am engaged. I am engaged to be married. I'm going to get married. I have to plan a wedding!! The thought filled me with excitement, pleasure, anxiety and apprehension. I've never been engaged before so obviously never having planned a wedding I have no idea where to start. The obligatory 'congratulations' came flooding in from friends and family and they all wanted to know - 'So have you set a date?'. No, I haven't set a date, I'm still just getting my head around the fact that I have a ring on my finger, I certainly haven't started choosing chair covers or putting together seating plans! Following this came a barrage of fifty more questions, 'Do you know what style of dress you'd like?', 'Have you thought about how you're going to decorate the venue?', 'Who's going to be your bridesmaids?', 'Do you like veils or do you think you'll go with something different?' - Oh my goodness I have no idea! I notice that my husband-to-be is not having to deal with this interrogation from his friends, a simple pat on the back, a clink of beer bottles and a 'well done' are all he receives before continuing to discuss what happened in the football at the weekend. This leads me to my first realisation about planning a wedding – apparently it is the woman’s domain.

He's done the hard part, asked the question, and now it seems that it will largely fall to me to plan the wedding. Now many women may relish this or even desire it but I am not so sure. I'm looking forward to researching wedding venues, trying on dresses, hand making favours but I had always envisaged my husband-to-be right there alongside of me. After all the excitement has died down I speak to Mr Right about my thoughts and, not so surprisingly when I think about it, he completely agrees. He wants to be there for every step of planning 'our wedding'. He even shares some ideas he has already had and makes me smile reminding me of just why I want to marry him – because he's wonderful, he's my best friend and I know him so well.  

Written by our secret bride

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