The Beauty Of Weddings
Now, I immediately know what you’re thinking. Why is she so overly emotional? Is she hungover? Though I am the first, I can confirm that I’m not the latter. I genuinely have just been swept up unexpectedly by the beauty of weddings and everything they stand for – a perfect perk of this job. I’m always at a consistently fairly high level of wedding-induced hysteria, the beauty of the décor, the styling of the photographs, the splendour of the setting. And whilst all this is as true as ever in this case, I think it’s just the perfect case of getting back to what it’s all about.
I was scrolling through facebook when a lovely lady I used to work with changed her cover photo to one of her and seven other women, next to a gorgeous bride, on a beautiful sunny day surrounded by greenery. (You see what I was saying before – so far, so good. Scenery – good. Photographs – good. The perks of a truly wonderful industry!) They’re all beaming and beautiful, and wearing alternating pastel shades. I loved it from the moment I saw it – I think it caught my eye because each lady was wearing a different style to the others, but they’d all nailed the colour schemes of Serenity and Rose Quartz. Particularly, one of the girls on the right of the bride is wearing cropped dusky pink trousers, which I immediately loved as a potential bridal party look! I messaged the girl in question, asking if I could get the bride’s details to get permission to write a blog post about her snazzy bridesmaids outfits…only to find that they weren’t bridesmaids at all, they were her hens, and that the outfit ‘planning’ was entirely unplanned and by accident.
This is about up-to-date with my overly emotional state. I immediately fell in love even more with the situation, and how much it resonated with exactly what weddings are supposed to be about: entirely separately, all the people you care about the most coming together to spend a day making life-long happy memories, and all the important and awesome coincidences and moments that accompany it. And now, continuing this emotional rollercoaster: a life lesson (I am a philosopher by training, after all…)
It’s so easy to get bogged down in the specifics of wedding preparation, and emotions are always running high in the run up (very often, not in a good way). Maybe the money doesn’t add up the way you want it to, the family members don’t play ball the way they ought to, and there are plenty of mini crises to navigate too. All of this, whilst also holding down a job, and also attempting being a decent human, can be exceedingly daunting. And then, just when you feel like you’re handling things, social media throws something your way which completely messes up the plans you thought you had in place, or makes you feel inadequate.
Every now and again, when it really feels like the world is just up against you, take a breather and a step back. Treat yourself, whether to a cup of tea, an entire Victoria Sponge, or a holiday home in Morocco, and think about what really, truly matters – making your forever with the love of your life, and having the people you adore celebrate you do so. This isn’t to say that those problems aren’t real and troubling: you’ve got every right to feel stressed about them, and no-one can tell you otherwise. Rather, try not to get caught up in the madness that surrounds wedding these days – the marital mayhem. As long as you enjoy the day, it’s a success for everyone involved, and instagram and facebook to boot. On top of this, it’s just a fact that your guests will love it too, because you’ll be so blissfully happy. They’re all joining you for a day of fervent love, friendship, and potentially some drunken renditions of Mr Brightside too. It’s a cliché, but things have a way of working themselves out – if you’re marrying your soulmate, that’s working itself out pretty well already hey?
This has been an And So To Wed public service announcement, and a special thanks must be said to Sadie for not commenting on how weird my out-of-the-blue message to her was, and Jenni, the bride, for not running a mile when I asked for permission to blog about her wedding photo…
Written by Ellie Kime